I was asked to give my personal testimony about why my husband and I use the Billings Ovulation Method, and why practicing NFP is so important to us. I thought I would share what I wrote with you here. I am hoping that others who may be on the fence about this particular Church teaching, will prayerfully consider giving it a try.
Image of the Holy Family, model of virtue and love.
Why
NFP?
Since we are created in the image and likeness of God and God is love, then we
are to love each other as deeply as possible – in a way that is most like the
way God loves us. Natural Family Planning gives us an opportunity to love our
spouse, children and ourselves in a more profound way. “It also teaches us that
fertility is a blessing, a reality of life that is accepted, instead of a
problem to be solved.”
My husband, Randy, and I have been married for 18 years.
Randy was not Catholic when we married (although he did convert later), but he
knew that trying to be faithful to the Church’s teaching on artificial
contraception was important to me, so he went along with it. As we worked on
understanding this teaching despite the mainstream culture’s pull away from it,
we discovered John Paul II’s, Theology of the Body, and his beautiful words
that so eloquently explain the importance of recognizing the dignity in each
human being – that we are not objects for each other’s gratification. Our
bodies are holy and we are to use them in a loving and holy way. We also discovered an inexplicable freedom
when we trusted in God with reckless abandon. And by reckless abandon, I don’t
mean that we expected to have dozens of children. I mean that we learned the
science and anatomy behind our fertility and we trusted that God had designed
us just the way he wanted us and the system that he had naturally blessed us
with worked! And it does. We have three children ages 15, 13 and 7. None were a
surprise. We felt like we knew what we were doing and it was part of God’s plan
for us.
The Church’s teaching on Natural Family Planning has given my husband
and me an opportunity to grow in holiness. It has increased our ability to
communicate. While it was a little tricky at first, we now comfortably share
what is going on emotionally and physically regularly throughout the week. Even
though I have always loved God with my whole heart, I have found that it is still
possible to love Him more each day. In this same way is my love for my husband.
In embracing and practicing Natural Family Planning, Randy has shown not only
his love and respect for God, but also he shows his love and respect for me.
This makes me love him all the more. I look at the man and see his holiness and
devotion and it inspires me to strive for the same. Our goal as married couples
is to help each other get to heaven. I know he is helping me a great deal.
Natural
Family Planning has also changed the way we view children. Every child is a
gift, no matter how difficult the situation. God calls us all to surrender our
desires to serve others. Children give us yet another opportunity to show God’s
love to the world. True peace and happiness comes from the sacrificial love we
can give each other.
Let's ask for the intercession of Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta as we contemplate God's call to practice Natural Family Planning in our own lives. Blessed Mother Teresa was a strong proponent of the Billings Ovulation Method. She was very successful in teaching this method to the poor and down trodden-women to which she ministered to in Calcutta.
Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta, pray for us!